carter matthew hodges


11.22.2021 – 12.30.2021

Carter's Eulogy
Carter Matthew Hodges was born at 39+4, right on time! He so badly wanted to be punctual that despite Haley being told at her 39 week appointment that the baby wasn't coming anytime soon, Carter broke Haley's water in her sleep! So with less than a few hours of sleep under their belt Haley and Jason rushed to the hospital at midnight on November 21st and after 18 long hours, Carter made his grand appearance into the world on November 22nd, 2021 at 5:31pm. He was almost exactly 6 pounds, 5.999 pounds to be exact, and 19 & 1/2 inches long. Mommy and daddy were in love when they saw him and he was and always will be perfect to them. He had the thickest head of dark hair to which everyone questioned, where did that come from?! Carter was Jason's mini-me. And upon sharing pictures of Jason's baby photos with nurses and doctors, they would gasp and say how uncanny the resemblance was! Carter spent a few days in the postpartum room with a very tired Haley and Jason as they tried to adjust to life as new parents. All the nurses thought he was so cute! He was having some trouble feeding, he was trying to tell everyone, "I miss the placenta! I was so cozy in mommy's tummy and here I have to work so hard to eat. What's up with that?" Everyone cared about Carter so much, they made him a bed in the Meridian NICU to give him the best care he could get...and help him adjust to the cruel and unforgiving world outside the womb. Mommy and Daddy spent as much time as humanly possible by his bedside. They would read to Carter, sing to Carter, hold Carter, and pray for Carter. Carter's favorite book his Mommy Read to him was "Baby's First Bible Stories". One of those stories was particularly important to Carter in the first week of his life and that was The Story of David and Goliath. The end of the story always made mommy cry, it said "God helps us even though we are small."  And God did help Carter every step of his life. When Carter was a week old he said, "My tummy doesn't feel good!" so to help Carter's tummy, he was transferred to the Boise NICU to get the best care he could get. Everyone there cared so much about Carter too. They worked very hard to help figure out what was so upsetting to Carter's tummy. Carter was so brave he went to the OR for exploratory surgery. Haley said, “Please get better for mommy.” To which Carter said, "Okay no problem!"  Carter came out of his surgery and stole the heart of one of his primary nurses, Beth, and even tried to pull out his own intubation tube. Carter was very confused the next couple of days as to why no would feed him!! Haley tried to tell Carter, "I know you don't understand now but it's for your own good. Your tummy needs to heal before you can have more milk." Carter was very loud and would often demand milk. His loud cry won him the nickname "Lord Carter" from one of his other beloved primary nurses, Toni. Everyone beckoned to Lord Carter's every need.  He loved to be held and cuddled by mommy and daddy. He even loved cuddles with his nurses. Everyone thought he was the cutest little boy and that he was so handsome. He was very expressive when he slept and would often give mommy the cutest little smile. He loved his paci, he loved his swing, and would love to be rocked to sleep.  When he was awake he would look around with his big blue eyes and just try to figure his little world out. Carter started to feel better from surgery. He did so  well, all the doctors were impressed by how well he was doing. It was then that he discovered his love for milk and he just drank and drank from his bottle. He drank so much, he got bigger and weighed over 7 pounds! Some of his dark hair started to recede, he was mommy and daddy's big boy now. As much as he loved them though, he didn't know how to tell his loving parents that his tummy still hurt. The doctors gave Haley and Jason the wonderful news, that they could take Carter home. They enjoyed every second, and Carter did too! He got lots of cuddles, lots of swing time, lots of love from not just mommy and daddy, but Grandma Dottie too! He even got to meet Grandpa Ed. He loved his kitties, who were so curious about him. One Kittie, Kiki, was scared of him though and would run away when he cried.  Carter was now fondly referred to as mommy's "wireless baby". It was so freeing to walk around without any leads or IVs. It was a glimpse of heaven for Carter. And a glimpse of an angel for mommy and daddy. Carter had a baby's first Christmas, there were many cute onesies and pictures involved, as to be expected. But Carter didn't know how to tell them that his tummy still hurt and that he needed help. He finally got the courage to tell mommy and daddy, so they rushed him back to the Children's Hospital, where everyone set him up with the best care he could get, because they all cared about him so much, even still. Carter was very tired though, he told mommy, "This world was not what it was meant to be. There is a better place waiting for me, in heaven." And mommy said, "It's okay if you need to go to Jesus honey, mommy understands," So he flew away, to the place where there is no more poking, no more crying, no more IV's, no more leads, and no more hyperbilirubinemia or neonatal cholestasis....a place where there is no more disease or suffering. He has a new body and he is finally free from the bondage of this world. He is at peace. Though his life was shorter than most, Carter endured more medical challenges than some of us in our adult lives ever will. He was stronger and braver than some of us will ever have to be. Though his life was short, Carter touched more people than some of us ever will. Because he was a special boy. We will always love him, and until we see him again someday, we will always remember his love that shone like a bright light in the darkness.
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Carter’s Memorial Service 

WELCOME TO THE WORLD, sweet boy
11.22.21

The Night you were born

cuddles with daddy

love at first sight

Cuddles with mommy

Carter matthew hodges, we love you

carter’s maternity photos 


“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” – Psalm 139:13-14

Courtesy of Emely Campbell Photography

CARTER’s NURSERY

We prepared the most beautiful place for our son; he got to enjoy this sweet nursery while he was home. He loved his crib, his swing, & cuddles in the rocking chair with mommy, daddy, & grandma.

Some of the artwork you see featured, I painted for Carter. I thought he would enjoy this space as he grew up. Instead I will look these pictures & think about how much I miss him.

Courtesy of Emely Campbell Photography

UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN, 12.30.21

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” – Matthew 19:14

Courtesy of Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep

This is not the end, 1.21.22

“The last enemy to be destroyed is death.” – 1 Corinthians 15:26

Courtesy of  Emely Campbell Photography

Carter’s celebration of life, 1.22.22

On the day Carter turned two months old in heaven,
Family & friends gathered to celebrate his beautiful life,
To celebrate his spiritual resurrection into the arms of the LORD.

Courtesy of Emely Campbell Photography

1 Corinthians 15

The Resurrection of Christ

Now, brothers and sisters, I want to remind you of the gospel I preached to you, which you received and on which you have taken your stand.  By this gospel you are saved, if you hold firmly to the word I preached to you. Otherwise, you have believed in vain.

For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Cephas, and then to the Twelve. After that, he appeared to more than five hundred of the brothers and sisters at the same time, most of whom are still living, though some have fallen asleep. Then he appeared to James, then to all the apostles, and last of all he appeared to me also, as to one abnormally born.

For I am the least of the apostles and do not even deserve to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God. But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them—yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me. Whether, then, it is I or they, this is what we preach, and this is what you believed.

The Resurrection of the Dead

But if it is preached that Christ has been raised from the dead, how can some of you say that there is no resurrection of the dead? If there is no resurrection of the dead, then not even Christ has been raised. And if Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith. More than that, we are then found to be false witnesses about God, for we have testified about God that he raised Christ from the dead. But he did not raise him if in fact the dead are not raised. For if the dead are not raised, then Christ has not been raised either.  And if Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins.  Then those also who have fallen asleep in Christ are lost. If only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are of all people most to be pitied.

But Christ has indeed been raised from the dead, the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep.  For since death came through a man, the resurrection of the dead comes also through a man. For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive. But each in turn: Christ, the firstfruits; then, when he comes, those who belong to him. Then the end will come, when he hands over the kingdom to God the Father after he has destroyed all dominion, authority and power. For he must reign until he has put all his enemies under his feet. The last enemy to be destroyed is death. For he “has put everything under his feet.” Now when it says that “everything” has been put under him, it is clear that this does not include God himself, who put everything under Christ.  When he has done this, then the Son himself will be made subject to him who put everything under him, so that God may be all in all.

Now if there is no resurrection, what will those do who are baptized for the dead? If the dead are not raised at all, why are people baptized for them? And as for us, why do we endanger ourselves every hour? I face death every day—yes, just as surely as I boast about you in Christ Jesus our Lord. If I fought wild beasts in Ephesus with no more than human hopes, what have I gained? If the dead are not raised,

“Let us eat and drink,
    for tomorrow we die.”

Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning; for there are some who are ignorant of God—I say this to your shame.

The Resurrection Body

But someone will ask, “How are the dead raised? With what kind of body will they come?” How foolish! What you sow does not come to life unless it dies. When you sow, you do not plant the body that will be, but just a seed, perhaps of wheat or of something else. But God gives it a body as he has determined, and to each kind of seed he gives its own body. Not all flesh is the same: People have one kind of flesh, animals have another, birds another and fish another. There are also heavenly bodies and there are earthly bodies; but the splendor of the heavenly bodies is one kind, and the splendor of the earthly bodies is another. The sun has one kind of splendor, the moon another and the stars another; and star differs from star in splendor.

So will it be with the resurrection of the dead. The body that is sown is perishable, it is raised imperishable;  it is sown in dishonor, it is raised in glory; it is sown in weakness, it is raised in power; it is sown a natural body, it is raised a spiritual body.

If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body. So it is written: “The first man Adam became a living being”; the last Adam, a life-giving spirit. The spiritual did not come first, but the natural, and after that the spiritual. The first man was of the dust of the earth; the second man is of heaven. As was the earthly man, so are those who are of the earth; and as is the heavenly man, so also are those who are of heaven. And just as we have borne the image of the earthly man, so shall we bear the image of the heavenly man.

 I declare to you, brothers and sisters, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God, nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed— in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. 54 When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.”

“Where, O death, is your victory?
    Where, O death, is your sting?”

The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

 Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.

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